The amazing Rarasaur is hosting the Weekly Writing Challenge at WordPress with this prompt:
This week, we’re asking you to consider things from a different point of view — to walk a mile in someone’s shoes. Leave your moccasins and bunny slippers at the door, and tell us a tale from a fully-immersed perspective that is not your own.
Rara also did an interview at You’ve Been Hooked where she advises us to “be brave” in order to be a successful blogger. So here is my brave submission to the Weekly Writing Challenge. This is me empathizing with two young lovers.
| Him | Her |
| Man, she’s hot. I’d like to have her for one night. | He’s cute. I’d love to get to know him better over the next few months. |
| The boys will think I’m a stud if I had sex with her. | The girls will be so jealous if he were my boyfriend. |
| She seems kind. Maybe she won’t ridicule me if I mess up in bed. | He seems kind. Maybe he will treat me well. |
| If I tell her I love her, maybe she will sleep with me. | He said he loved me. I must be special. |
| She looked in my eyes. I hope she didn’t see the real me. | He looked into my eyes. I hope he sees the real me. |
| I’m naked. I wonder if she thinks I’m too small. | I’m naked. I wonder if he thinks I’m too big. |
| Since I can’t get love, I’ll settle for an orgasm. | Since I can’t orgasm, I’ll settle for a little love. |
| Did I come too soon? | Was I too innocent/dirty/wild/demure/loud/quiet? |
| I wonder if she liked it? | I hope he liked it? |
| I hope no one finds out about this. | I hope no one finds out about this. |
| I feel so inadequate. I gotta get out of here. | He is leaving. Was I inadequate? |
| Why do I keep doing this? | Why do I keep doing this? |
| I’m such an idiot. | I’m such an idiot. |
| Will I ever find someone to love me? | Will I ever find someone to love? |
I really want to know what you think of this post. Do you find sex confusing? Are you unable to empathize with the opposite sex about sex? Is my portrayal completely off base? Please Share.
Other entries from Rara’s Challenge:
On the River: http://teepee12.com/2014/01/28/on-the-river/
Inside the Head of a Sporadic Three Year Old: http://onesahmscrazylife.wordpress.com/2014/01/27/inside-the-head-of-a-sporadic-three-year-old/
Fifteen Year Old Me is Disgusted: http://thecheesewhines.wordpress.com/2014/01/27/fifteen-year-old-me-is-disgusted/
everyday gurus 
This is spot on, Kozo.
Confusing? In my earlier days, yes. Now? Now we’ve been together so long it’s just something special – something indescribable. It’s something sacred for sure.
Love this post. Different is good. 😉
*hugs*
That is the magic of true love, J. Understanding, empathy, and grace. Sacred for sure! {{{Hugs}}}Kozo
Definitely. *hugs*
Well done. Though it left me feeling a wee bit sad that for all the strides we’ve made, so much is truly still the same. :). Brave and bright you are, great format.
Thanks, Aurora. It is sad that we don’t have more education or empathy in our society to make these experiences easier for young lovers. Shows like Girls are breaking some of the myths. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
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It does not confuse me, it did when I was younger. Your words show insecurity within him/her themselves. Once you are a confident you and go with the flow, it is not so confusing. Be honest about things talk about sex openly and your fears and you feel much better. Honest Communication between a couple is the most important factor also for sex issues.
I agree, Ute, honesty is best. I should have noted that this is a fiction piece. I am married at 48, so I was recreating these perspectives. Great advice you give. {{{hugs}}} Kozo
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You are right on target Kozo, and it’s good to share these thoughts so both men and women can consider their desire and expectations. If we want to experience real love it’s better to get to know the person before jumping in bed with someone who had no intention of caring about you.
So true, Cheryl. I would love my sons to read this piece in about 8 years when they start entering the world of sex and desire. A connection beyond the physical is what I will try to guide them towards. {{{Hugs}}} kozo
This was my life when I was looking. Those thoughts run through our heads but we will never know the answers until they run out our mouths.
So wise, SHO. We need to communicate the truth with radical honesty to truly connect. I take it, you are not “looking” anymore, but “seeing.” {{{hugs]}} Kozo
Sounds familiar.
Sad, but true, isn’t it AA. Like I said above, I want my sons to read this before they get intimate with anyone. Hopefully, the times will be a changin. {{{hugs}}} kozo
viva la difference 🙂
Ha. David. Yes, La Difference. To defer and to differentiate true connection. Viva la Integration. Viva la Oneness. 🙂 {{{hugs}}} kozo
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I can imagine those inner dialogues and the sad result. Good post.
Yes, sad is right, Eileen. I’m hoping to educate my sons so they won’t have experiences like this. {{{hugs}}} Kozo
Wow, that said telling juxtaposition.
I was curious what you thought about this piece, Georgia. You must have a lot of students who share similar fears or insecurities. Glad it resonated. {{{hugs}}} Kozo
I think that sums up the differences between men & women… We are totally different but much the same with insecurities…