“Daddy, are sharks googuys or baaguys?” my three year old son asked while he was taking a bath.
It’s a legitimate question. I don’t want my son to classify all sharks as bad, but I also don’t want him to pet a shark because he thinks it is his friend. I heard a story of some little girls who got mauled by a bear because they ran up to it thinking it was a Care Bear.
My older son rescued me, “Sharks are not guys, right Daddy? Plus, there are no good guys and bad guys.“
A few months earlier, my older son asked me if Anakin Skywalker was a good guy or a bad guy. Although I hated what George Lucas did to the Star Wars franchise with the introduction of Jake Lloyd and Hayden Christensen, I have to admit that he demystified good and bad with Anakin.
“Anakin becomes Darth Vader, Son. There are no good and bad guys. Sometimes people make bad decisions, but that does not make them bad.” I heard my voice crack, perhaps from a guilty conscience. “Everyone has good in them. Don’t ever forget that.”
I don’t want my sons to judge others as bad people. I want them to love all beings, even their enemies.
“When you look at the dark side, careful you must be…for the dark side looks back.”~Yoda, Dark Rendezvous
When they get a little older, I want to teach them about yin and yang–how in all darkness there is a little light and in all Light there is a little darkness. I want to let them know that this relationship is always in movement.
At every moment we can choose the light or the dark. Part of us will always be attracted to the dark because part of us is dark. But we can always choose the Light, no matter what the circumstances, what others say, or what has happened in the past.
Nowadays, my sons don’t ask me about good guys and bad guys anymore. I hope that means that they view others as a part of the whole, but I suspect that they are tired of hearing me preach about onelove and forgiveness.
My new strategy is just to put on some Bob Marley.
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