In the middle of the night, my 3 year old son started screaming, “No, No, No.” After waking from a nightmare, he was inconsolable. “I want something,” he babbled for half an hour. Water, blankets, stuffed animals, Mommy–nothing could make him stop crying. In my half-awake state, I realized that he was teaching me about Buddhism.
In his first teaching after enlightenment, the Buddha explained the Four Noble Truths. The First Noble Truth states that all life is suffering. The Second Noble Truth explains that suffering is caused by craving conditioned by ignorance. Obviously, my son was suffering because he was craving something. The last two noble truths are about how to end suffering by eradicating craving and ignorance.
The realization my son taught me is that cravings and ignorance are often attached to fear. This gives us a more central root of suffering that we can dig up on our way to peace of mind. If we excavate the fear, we can often eliminate a number of cravings all at once.
“Where there is charity and wisdom, there is neither fear nor ignorance.“~St. Francis de Assisi
As an example, I’ve listed some of my fears, the related cravings/desires, and the wisdom I’m using to release the fear.
Fear |
Craving/Clinging On to Ignorance |
Release |
| That I am not good enough
That I don’t matter |
Petty competitions—I’m a better than you/my kid is smarter than yours
Exaggeration, lying, bragging |
We are all one.
“We are all cells in God’s body”~Spinoza “Circumstances don’t matter. Only State of Being matters.”~Bashar |
| That my past is a scar that will not heal
That I have made mistakes that I can’t recover from |
Guilt
Shame Self-Pity |
“Your life is not working out perfectly.”~Jeff Foster
Mistakes “do not define us; they guide us”~Jonathan Hilton “One must be a god to be able to tell successes from failures without making a mistake.” ~Anton Pavlovich Chekhov |
| What others think about me
How others judge me |
Dishonesty
Creating a façade Hiding, isolation |
“Speak your truth even/especially if your voice shakes.”~Jeff Foster
“Preach the Gospel always, and if necessary, use words.”~St. Francis de Assisi “Judge not”~Bob Marley |
| That I will not be able to provide for my family | Greed
Selfishness Get rich quick schemes |
“Wisdom says I am nothing. Love says I am everything. Between the two my life flows.”~Nisargadatta Maharaj
We are created in God’s image>God is a creator>We are creators>Never doubt your ability to create—your godliness. |
Maybe this realization is obvious to others, but I feel better equipped to tackle my fears and cravings using this chart.
“All of my teachings can be put in a single sentence. ‘Nothing is to be clung to as I, me, or mine.’” ~The Buddha
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What are your fears? How would you fill out the chart? Please share.
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My dear, Kozo. First I would like to say that I really hope your son is okay! Poor little darling 😦
I love this quote and have never heard it before – “Preach the Gospel always, and if necessary, use words.”~St. Francis de Assisi” That is certainly a classic.
My greatest fear is losing the people I love. I don’t know how to overcome this fear and I guess it’s a selfish fear because it’s about how I feel towards them and how sad I would be if I lost them (see – I have five ‘I’s in that sentence!) This has always been my greatest and only fear. When I was young I worried about whether or not people would like me and that I would make mistakes, but these were ‘worries’ and have vanished over the years (I sound like I’m 100 years old!) 😀
{{{Hugs}}}
Hey Dianne,
Little Fox is fine. He is such a buddha during the day, but at night he is often racked by bad dreams. It is almost as if he gets his demons out at night and lives a paradise during the day.
I also love the St. Francis quotation. I just read a short bio on St. Francis and he is definitely a role model for peace.
In terms of losing the people we love, I’m right there with you. When I was a kid, I used to stay up at night waiting for my mom to come home from meetings. I would not sleep until I heard the garage door open. Now that I am a father, I love my kids more than anything. It is tough to even contemplate life without them. Thankfully, i have a strong belief in the soul, so even if loved ones leave us, they are still with us.
I’m also letting go of what other people think of me, but still have a ways to go. Guess I’m not THAT old. haha.
{{{Hugs}}} Kozo
when fear takes holds
I try think of two entries
from my daily morning journal
~
the secret of happiness
is even-mindedness through
all the storms of life
~
the secret of happiness
is accepting whatever comes
with an attitude of calm
inner freedom
~
reflecting
in the morning
gives me perspective
courage to initiate
my day
I used these thoughts in my morning meditation today, Geo Sans. Thank you. I love the “attitude of calm inner freedom.” I might have to steal that one for the chart. 🙂
I keep reminding myself every morning, but I am also challenged everyday. I guess that is the practice. Thanks for the great mantras; they truly are the secrets of happiness. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
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Thank you so much, Jueseppi. I am honored that you re-blog my posts on your site. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Great messages need to be shared all over the bloggersphere.
❀ Namaste ❀
Very useful – thank you!
Anything to make you smile, Julie. {{{Hugs}}} to you and the family, including G9. Kozo
I sometimes think that fear is the root of all evil. Yoda is pretty darn smart. I don’t know how you conquer it completely, or even if you should want to because there are some healthy fears that keep us alive. (like the fear of leaping from tall buildings) It’s the fretting and worrying about everything that makes us crazy. And angry. And miserable. I know if I make myself stop thinking so hard and just let things be and happen however they happen, I’m a much nicer person to have around. It’s a good graph Kozo! Especially the Release column. We should all concentrate on that one. xxoo
Thinking back, Grandmalin, I should change the title to “Uprooting Fear…” Problem is that WP has a bug with tables, so every time I update the post the table gets all messed up. I’m afraid to touch it. 😦
I’m the same way with fretting and worrying. I think it is our need to have everything perfect. This can stem from different fears for different people. In my case, I think I can trace it back to my fear of what others think of me. If I let go of that fear, I’m usually pretty comfortable with how my life is messily moving along.
Thanks for being “a nice person to have around.” haha Love, Kozo
Grandmalin, your response reminds me of a movie entitled Spoorloos (The Vanishing) which is, essentially, a non-gory character exploration of a sociopathic personality. In it, the sociopath tells a story about how he jumped from a two or three story railing as a child–breaking his leg. He explains that he later learned that others would not take that jump because of fear and, in his research, had discovered that his brain was different from others–causing him to lack this fear and making him a sociopath capable of killing others. This all makes me wonder what role fear should play in society. It isn’t good to have no fear, but where does one draw the line?
i read about fear coming out in different ways…like anger actually is fear. hope your little one is better now. maybe he watched something scary? that is a great chart…wow, impressive.your choice of quotes are right on especially like Spinoza’s one. ♥
Ooops, Sunshine, maybe I shouldn’t have let him watch the Avengers. haha.
Yes, I love the Spinoza quotation because it is so true, although sometimes I feel like I am a cell on God’s behind. 🙂 {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Interesting post. Thank you for sharing, Kozo. You are one generous soul, as always! ♥
Something to spark discussion: I would like to comment on Buddha’s point on Four Noble Truths. But before we go on to that, my wonderful friend Kozo, let us dive into an infinite ocean ‘Kasyaf.
‘Kasyaf’ is Arabic for a moment of revelation. In Sufism, Kasyaf is a spiritual level when one attains true enlightenment, when everything is unraveled to them and what is hidden is concealed to them, when even a tiny particle looks as bright as the sun in a glaring day. One who has experienced Kasyaf would see what other people cannot see, and they can hear what other people cannot hear. One who attains Kasyaf is given one of these gifts: the gift of vision, the gift of hearing, the gift of sense, the gift of the gab, or ‘ilmul ladunni (infinite knowledge without necessarily learning). Everyone is not the same. In the case of Rumi, it was the gift of the gab, in the case of Khidr, it was ‘ilmul ladunni, in the case of a relative of mine, it is the gift of the hearing-boy, this man predicted my future accurately according to what he hears from angels!
When one has ‘Kasyaf’, either they would hear a voice or see something that is shown to them, they would receive their truth. They would receive a truth, not the truth.
This truth, is a magnificent manifestation of the truth, of the Supreme Truth, of the True Omnipotent Truth, of God. The truth, the real truth, only belongs to God.
One’s truth at the moment of revelation is a holy mission that one needs to carry out on earth. It is one way in which one is given a duty to prosper the earth and helps humanity to maximize the fullest of their potential.
Because it is a truth, not the truth, then we completely understand why we have so many people who keep the earth in the right order. We had Abraham, we had Zoroaster, the Buddha, Khidr, Moses, Jesus, Mohammed, Rumi, Hafez, St Francis of Asisi, Thomas Aquinas, and so on and so on. Every one of these people had their own truth as a divine message that they said to people. In short, God speaks through these people.
But isn’t it interesting that none of these people have the same truth even though they are reflecting the same truth, the same God’s love to humanity? Well, you know the answer. That’s because everyone of them is a mirror that reflects God’s light to many different directions, and surely with many different colors. That’s because every one of them is a singer who sings the same song composed by God, they just sing it differently. ♥
And there’s a limitation due to linguistic and cultural boundaries as well, that one’s way of teaching their truth is limited by their own linguistic corpora as well as their cultural views of the world, and to a large extent, by their own experience in life.
Have you ever imagined why Buddha said “Life is suffering” as his truth, while Mohammed’s truth was an instruction to read and learn? In brief, in Mohammed’s case, that’s because the Arabs lived the life of jahiliyah, or the life of ignorance, when common sense was not applicable anymore, when people did not read, did not learn, hence receiving no knowledge whatsoever. They lived a barbaric life. Such situation went through his state of mind, until then a truth was revealed to him in the word, ‘Iqra’ or “read, learn something”. From thereupon, Islamic teachings are based on this principle. On the other hand, our historical examination on the Buddha’s life would highlight that he saw suffering when he lived in Kapilavastu, left his family, and went to live the life of an ascetic until he finally reached enlightenment. Along the way, he saw suffering was prevalent, not only among the poor, but also the sick, the disabled, etc. This went through his state of mind, until a truth was then concealed to him that life is indeed suffering, that the way to end the suffering is by living an ascetic life, until then attaining Nirvana.
But believe me my friend, if Hafez ever met Buddha, which I am sure they would, the former would definitely, but jocularly, contradict the latter because he just did not buy the idea. For the Buddha “life is suffering”, but for Hafez, life is “the Beloved Divine’s game” where everyone could “have fun”. Take a look at this sample of Hafez’s poem:
The sky
is a suspended blue ocean
*
The stars are the fish that swim
The planets are the white whales
*
I sometimes hitch a ride on
The sun and all light
Have forever fused themselves
into my heart
and upon my skin
*
There is only one rule on this Wild playground
Every sign Hafez has ever seen
Reads the same
*
They all say,
“Have fun, my dear, have fun.
In the Beloved Divine’s game,
O’ in the Beloved Wonderful Game.”
*
by Hafez Syirazi
So, my friend, what do you think? Should we prescribe to the point of view of one’s truth that is spoken hundreds of perhaps thousands years ago? What about if we seek and find our own truth? Isn’t the Divine’s Light within us is infinite that we are not unworthy or too small to be able to attain our own truth?
I would love to hear your words, Kozo. Let us share ideas, under the Light of Love. Many blessings and much love to you, Namaste ♥
Subhan, you are a true scholar and gentleman. Great input! ☼
Isn’t he, Maddy. I feel like I learn more in comments than in contemplation. This is the magic of blogging. Your comment on Alia’s post really opened my eyes to a whole new reality, Maddy. And now, Subhan gifts me with a new cultural playground to find God. I am blessed and grateful. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Subhan,
Thank you so much for this exploration of The Truth. I love the idea of multiple truths rooted in a Truth that only God knows. I totally agree that we tell our truths in the language and cultural mileau that we inherit. I am open to any spiritual truths from any culture. I have danced in circles like a Whirling Dervish, prostrated myself with Muslims, meditated with Zen masters, and taken holy sacrament at Mass. I believe that we are all one trying to re-member ourselves with God.
I am all for finding our own truth and I am all for playing in the “Beloved Wonderful Game.” I am so honored to share words and ideas with you, Subhan. You open a whole new world for me to play, dance, and have fun in. Thank you for sharing Hafez’s poem. I, too, will “hitch a ride on the sun and all light.” {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
That is so great, Kozo. I am so happy we’re on the same page! 🙂 One day we’ll help others to find the Light of Love within their heart ♥
Yoda!
Yay, Yoda. I believe he is a modern-day, Buddha. Definitely an everyday guru. Thanks for reading and commenting. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Very wise he is!
“Give Kozo a hug, you must.” No problem, Yoda!!! {{Hugs}}
One of my dreams come true, Merbear. Have Yoda recognize me and teach me. I’ll also take a hug from that little green muppet. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
nice
Thank you for reading. I can’t read your blog due to language barriers, but I appreciate your presence. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Hey nice job Kozo, your comprehensive list pretty much sums up all our insecurities, guilt, shame, ignorance etc. Being human, we just need to experience these sufferings in order to know what we’re not. I’m sure we’ve all been there, done that… so the real challenge is how do we want to live our lives going forward? Very nice post, Yoda is most definitely a wise old guru of the highest Jedi order! Just think, your little Buddha will absorb this truth light years ahead of us “slowpokes”. That’s why we observe them for guidance and “reflection”. Everyone is an aspect of everyone else – Indra’s Net/ fractal seed and all that. Bless you for sharing Kozo, you never fail to disappoint. 😀
I’m definitely late to the game, but you, my dear, are anything but a slowpoke. I am always re-amazed at how deep your wisdom delves in every tweet, comment, or post you make, Maddy. I hope one day my sons can thank their Auntie Maddy for their higher consciousness. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Thanks Kozo for all your wonderful compliments! Hey it takes a village… and I would be the grateful one, to see our collective future blossom to fruition. Anything for our future Buddhas, they’ll be next gen. Jedis and you’ll be the beloved wise Yoda (albeit taller and better looking) LOL! I’ll catch ya in the next battle. Au revoir! ♥
i think i have the third fear, what others think of me. that’s why i never judge others. wish they wouldn’t judge me too. great post thanks
That third fear is a tough one for me as well. I realized that I do so many things that have nothing to do with my soul just because I want to get approval from others. Making this chart helps me release this fear of opinions and pursue my authentic self. Hope it does the same for you. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
hope so too, at least when you know the fear is there, it’s easier to deal with it
thanks
Nice one Kozo.
Fear can consume us until we learn how to deal with it.
Yeah, Leo. The problem was that I never knew all these desires/cravings were linked to fear until my son’s nightmare. Like most men, I thought of myself as pretty fearless. What a surprise to start charting all my fears and how they have run my life.
Welcome home, Leo. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Talk to him during the day. Ask him about his fears and things that may be upsetting him. Then, give him a place to channel his fears and release them. (Art, poetry, sports, games, whatever he likes!)
*hugs*
I’m very familiar with the little ones’ nightmares. My son has them sometimes too. It tends to happen to very visual children. They learn visually & take in their enviroment through images they see during the day. Then at night, anything that may’ve been unpleasant to their little minds manifests as a very vivid nightmare.
You’re on the right path, Kozo.
Stay strong. 🙂
Yeah, DDiW, I probably should not let the little one watch the same shows my older son watches, but then I would not have much time to blog/write/read. I like the idea of talking to him about his fears. Life is such a balance. Thanks for the advice. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Anytime. 🙂 Trust me it works. Little by little he’ll open up to you about things that scare him. This is a good convo for Mommy to have too. Sometimes boys feel more comfortable opening up to their moms.
A great article. I appreciate the quote really I do. I think that fear is such a constant, powerful enemy that it needs to be monitored all the time. I remember when I first started to look at the fear in my life. I was afraid of everything it seemed! Terrorist, crime, young people, old people, any people. It was by embracing the love that exists in the world that the fear became manageable to me. Great articles by awesome people like you Kozo keep me moving in a positive direction! Thank you my friend! My long lost brother. 🙂
My dear brother, we share the same path, obviously. I am just now realizing how much fear ran my life. Somehow I never thought to examine it before. Obviously, your post on mistakes had an effect on me. Thank you for the wisdom and guidance. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Fear is uneasy getting through fear is self awareness that we are stronger than we thought. As always, your writings are always thought provoking and I Love that!! (((Kozo hugs)))
Yay, {{{Kozo hugs}}}. You hit the nail on the head, 1G4AW–Awareness. Like I said above, I was completely unaware of my fear. Now, thanks to you, I am more aware of my strength to combat fear. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
My big fear is worrying about what people think of me, always trying to be perfect, being afraid to show my flaws.
“Speak your truth even/especially if your voice shakes.”
I’ll have to remember that great quote. I guess I have to realize that I should just let go and be my real self, flaws and all.
That is my biggest fear as well, Dieu. I have to say that I love your posts/poems when you reveal your vulnerability (which is most of your post/poems). I’m starting to realize that we don’t have flaws, but learning opportunities. Some of my biggest mistakes and insecurities have been my greatest teachers. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
Isn’t it grand how we are supposed to teach children but they so often end up teaching us. I hope your son is having better dreams. Ambitious list of fears to overcome, I think you already are on a great path to uprooting them!
My fear? Not sure. I’ll have to sit and make a list of my own…
Just becoming aware of these fears helps me, Tasha. And yes, my sons are such great teachers. Thanks for the care and concern. Let me know if you come up with a fear that I might be overlooking. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
In my experience fear is the state of delusion caused by looking at the past or the future. Both of these words (past/future) are labels for mental/emotional projections that happen in the conditioned stream of consciousness – which is our ‘normal’ kind of perception. There is, of course, no past and also no future. Everything we can experience is in this present now moment. My writing about it will not change anything about your states of fear. Understanding of the way our consciousness becomes conditioned (how did we get so confused?) has helped me to no longer fall prey to fear-filled thoughts. In one perspective, EVERY thought is a product of fear: I want to know that I will be safe in the next moment. One pointer (which I must follow in my life in a very concrete way in order for it to mean anything) comes from Eckhart Tolle: “Can we renounce the need for the next moment?” Not so easy with a family to nourish and keep safe. Every tradition speaks of the need to give up the addiction to the idea of “safe” since it is only an idea but not a reality. What is a reality, which each of us must discover for ourselves, is that I cannot fall out of Reality, or Oneness, or my Self, since it is all-that-is. That realization is absolute “safety”. I will never taste that realization as long as I try to achieve safety on the same level as fear is, namely, the illusory belief that I am the body. Thanks for letting my pour out my two cents worth ☼ tomas ♥
Thank you so much for this comment, Tomas. I completely agree. I just need to keep reminding myself. It is so easy to get pulled back into the body/illusion. Your comment reminds me of two quotations: “If everything is ok in this moment, then EVERYTHING is ok”~Jeff Foster and “I don’t need insurance. I have in-assurance”~Chumash elder said while patting his chest.
I really appreciate you taking the time and effort to share your wisdom and guidance here, Tomas. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
…and I thank you, Dear Kozo, for your candidness and openness – vulnerability is trumps!
I like this one “Every new day is another chance to change your life” – although, as things are speeding up, it needs a slight revision: “Every new moment is another chance to change your life”
with love,
Tomas ♥
This is a wonderful post, and very helpful. Need to re read it more times. Thank you so much! We all have some fear in us and we all need to deal with it, and this helps fantastically. Love the quotes. I shall need to check out St. Fancis. Ute
Thank you, Ute. I read a short bio on St. Francis. He was pretty amazing–a true champion of peace. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
thank you so much for posting this. it validates for me why i am not in fear of condition and my ultimate death. people often comment that i must be afraid and don’t seem to understand why i am not. of course most would not understand how much sense this actually makes.
Thank you so much, sbcallahan. You who have beat the odds. Who have postponed the debt to death that we all owe. I appreciate your comment. I should add your quotation to the list: “making the best of every moment we are given, and just enjoying life.” {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
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Just a wonderful post, Kozo, and the mindful and thought-provoking comments attest to your wonderful post. Again, you allow us to explore our “truths” and the connection among us for we all know suffering–fear, craving, ignorance–it has so many labels, and I accept that all suffering is the divinity within life that guides us to our truth, our connection to one another. Everywhere we go, there we are. Thanks so much, dear friend, for these marvelous posts.
Karen
Karen,
I’m going to have to start adding your quotations to my chart. I’ll start with “I accept that all suffering is the divinity within life that guides us to our truth, our connection to one another.” That about covers it. haha. Thank you for walking this path with me. I feel blessed to share thoughts, ideas, visions, and wisdom with you. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
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Lovely post Kozo, as always very thought provoking. St Francis of Assisi was correct in saying ‘where there is charity and wisdom there is neither fear nor ignorance.’ Charity and wisdom would be a useful mantra for us all to practice, especially those in positions of power because it seems to me that our governments, corporations, employers and service providers are all too often driven by greed, selfishness and needless competition. My biggest fear is being unable to provide for my family because those in positions of power make it impossible for me to do so… I am coming to terms with the fear but it scares me nonetheless. Any thoughts you have on banishing this one would be welcome. Sending love and hugs, Tracy
Tracy,
We share the fear on not being able to provide for our family. I keep reminding myself that “Love is everything.” If I give my family love, then everything else is just details. Obviously, we need to provide food and shelter, but living in a first world country we are blessed with these necessities. I also know that if I stay true to my heart, the money will follow. I guess the bottom line to uprooting this fear is to follow your heart and love, love, love. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
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This is a GREAT post — I enjoyed reading it very much. There is a lot to think about!
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Shantideva said, if you are worrying about something – if you can do something about it do it, if you can’t why worry?
And so the only thing to fear is fear itself???
Easier said than done I know and especially when you are just a little one and you wake in the night 🙂 x
Really great post Kozo, I love your little chart, I think we could all do one of these and learn about the consequences of our fears and how to challenge them 🙂
This is an awesome exercise, thanks for sharing! I’ll do one myself and do a post on it next week!
Hugs 🙂
Rohan.
Yay, Rohan. I can’t wait to read your Stoic chart on fears and releases. {{{hugs}}} Kozo
I have a question, how did you make that grid? Is it HTML? Is there a simple code I could copy?
Thanks, I such with this kind of thing lol 🙂
Rohan.
Rohan,
I just googled html table and copied the code from the webpage. Let me know if you need help.
Cool, I should be fine then 😉 My post shall be up tomorrow!
Hugs.
Rohan.
Thanks for the post Kozo. I’d like to add something about suffering. We don’t like discomfort of any kind so no one goes out there saying “Hooray, I’m suffering, isn’t that great!” After all, why would we want to suffer? But suffering if looked at from non-attachment teaches us something about whatever it is we fear or are suffering about. It is a doorway to awakening, to making something unconscious, conscious and bringing it into our awareness so that we can learn something about ourselves. Your release column shows what is available to us to learn by facing our fears and using any suffering as a way to learn instead of judging it as “bad”.
If all life is suffering then how do we use that to achieve the Noble Eightfold Path?
Thank you for sharing this Kozo. Your personal examples really help to put things into context and therefore help me/other readers connect to your message. Also, that Yoda quote is one of my favorites!!
Yoda is one of my favorite gurus as well, Steve. Thank you for reading and commenting. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
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I had so many fears, and one way or another, those fears teach me a lot of lessons, it is either to take away my life or to live through with it.
A fear of taking mistakes; If I shouldn’t be, another fear I won’t learn at all and getting away from being human.
A fear of rejection; How will I know If I wouldn’t try to.
A fear of pain; Everything is pain, how can I take all the pains when I am afraid to experience those.
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