All You Need is Love 2.0

Although it is not as catchy as the Beatles’ song, Barbara Fredrickson’s scientific research into what she calls Love 2.0 can change your life and bring world peace.

love 2.0

Fredrickson redefines love as”micro-moments of positivity resonance.” Rather than limit love to romantic pursuits characterized by yearning and passion or kinship limited by blood-ties, Love 2.0 encompasses any connection characterized by a flood of positive emotions. With this new definition, we can fall in love hundreds of times a day with a wide variety of others including partners, pets, children, close friends, and strangers. Although Fredrickson claims that you have to physically be with the other person to experience Love 2.0, I beg to differ.

Lately, I’ve been trying to increase the number of positive words I use. I try to say, write, feel, or express “love” as much as I can, whether that be using the word itself, using a {{{Hugs}}} symbol or simply smiling. Sometimes I felt uncomfortable typing “I love you” in comments, tweets, or posts to my BBFs (Blogging Best Friends), but I truly felt a connection that I could only describe as love. The “positivity resonance” I feel with my BBFs is as strong online as it is with close friends in “real life.” Of course, the love for my wife and children exceeds any flood of positive emotions from friends, online or otherwise, but this should not lessen the fact that the love I feel is real.

In fact, for the past few days, I have been having a bit of a tough time with real life friends, yet my BBFs have lifted my spirits with their inspiring words, virtual hugs, and compassionate comments. I’m not going to argue with Fredrickson since she hasn’t, to my knowledge, done any research into online love and friendships. I’m just going to continue to spread the love wherever I go–at home, in my community, and on the internet.

What is even more interesting is that Fredrickson scientifically proved that one could increase one’s capacity for love (measured by what is called “vagal tone”) by doing lovingkindness meditation. So those of us who meditate daily for world peace are actually increasing the amount of love in the world. (You hear that Sunshine, Maddy, Sofia, Eliz, Annie, and Dianne?)

“If every 8 year old in the world is taught meditation, we will eliminate violence from the world within one generation.” Dalai Lama

I would argue that for, many of us, blogging is a form of lovingkindness meditation. In my daily lovingkindness practice, I silently repeat the phrases, “may all beings be happy and well, may no harm or difficulties come to them, may they live in peace and harmony.” In my daily blogging practice, I often read posts or comments that make me “happy and well,” prevent me from “harm and difficulties,” and increase the “peace and harmony” in my life. That is what we do as bloggers.

Β In conclusion, blogging/lovingkindness meditation increase our capacity to love. More love equals more peace. Therefore, blogging leads to peace.

Bloggers for Peace is no longer a dream; it is a reality.

Thank you for reading, sharing and/or smiling. I love you guys.

Is blogging a lovingkindness practice for you? Please share.

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45 comments on “All You Need is Love 2.0

  1. Alison says:

    I’ve had a practice for years, especially using it when not feeling love. On the in breath think the words I choose love here, then breath out. Repeat. Repeat. etc Been doing it so long I don’t need many repeats now for love to arise. Such a blessing.
    Thank you for this wonderful post. It is all true!
    Hugs and blessings to you xoxox

    • Kozo says:

      It doesn’t surprise me one bit that you have a meditation practice that focuses on lovingkindness, Alison. Like I said before, your blog is a spiritual blog full of wisdom disguised as a travel blog.
      I am taking a class called Cultivating Compassion that sounds similar to your practice. I hope to be able to have love arise at will some day in the future. Thank you for your wisdom and love. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

      • Alison says:

        Oh please don’t be thinking love arises at will for me. I wish. What I can say with certainty is it arises more easily and more frequently than it used to. So progress.
        And thank you for your wisdom and love (((((((Kozo)))))))

  2. diannegray says:

    I agree with you, Kozo. I’ve become very attached to people in this blogging world and in this sense I ‘love’ them. If anything untoward happened to them I know I would be very upset – but I don’t think many of my ‘real’ friends would understand this logic.

    I meditate for peace every day – but that doesn’t mean I’m immune from the bad side that the world sometimes throws at me. Yesterday on the road I’m sure I must have had a ‘kill me’ sign on my car. I was cut-off twice, a woman failed to give way to me at an intersection and then a man drove on the wrong side of the road towards me (I think he must have dropped something on the floor of the car and couldn’t see where he was going!) It was really weird! This is why we need to focus and understand the world we live in and B4Peace is wonderful in this way. At no time did I get angry or want to ‘road rage’ anyone. Okay, people do stupid things and make mistakes, but our job is to understand this, move on and not escalate a situation (let’s keep things peaceful). It’s little things like this that we are striving for πŸ™‚

    Sorry if I got a little off track, but I was thinking of B4Peace while I was experiencing these things yesterday!

    • Kozo says:

      Dianne,
      Tell those crazy drivers to get back on the right side of the road. Wait a minute, everyone drives on the wrong side of the road in Australia. haha.
      You are so amazing. Someone almost hits you head on, and you are thinking about B4Peace. You are my role model, Dianne. I want to be able to “love” those who now upset me. I just got back from my son’s basketball practice where I felt like backhanding a kid for taunting my son. Hopefully, my meditation practice will cultivate compassion for not only my BBFs like you, but also those who step on my toes or drive in my lane. Notice the repetition of “my”–I still have a lot of ego issues.
      I feel so blessed to have you as a “loving” friend, especially given our geographical separation. You might have to think about yesterday, but hope you can feel the love I am sending you now. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

  3. kartikasays says:

    I love the idea of micro moments and how powerful they can be to increase the love quotient! I want to be mindful of this more and more on a day to day basis. Sometimes we forget how much we can do in just simple ways to create peace and love in the world. Also, to help us be at peace with ourselves. Thanks for this wonderful post! πŸ™‚

    • Kozo says:

      Kartika,
      I agree. I often forget to create love and peace on a daily basis. Fredrickson’s Love 2.0 validates the possibility that we can extend love and compassion to people we don’t normally love. Thanks for reading and commenting. Love and {{{Hugs]}} Kozo

  4. fgassette says:

    Meditation is a great part of my life that I start with every morning. So for me blogging is a loving kindness practice that I try to share each day through my photography. I hope people who read my posts are inspired, encouraged and yes find some peace. I enjoyed your post.

    BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!

    • Kozo says:

      Francine,
      Your blog often makes me feel “happy and well” and brings me “peace and harmony.” When I read your signature “BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!” I feel the love you are extending through the internet. I am grateful to have met you through Bloggers for Peace. Thank you for all the Peace and Love you spread with your posts and comments. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

  5. I hear you πŸ™‚ (((Kozo)))

  6. The connection we feel with our blogging friends is something that might be studied later in coming years, still I agree with you when you say that blogging is a form of lovingkindness meditation. The words, the images we share with each other are always lifting us up and increasing our level of positive energy all around.
    Hoping you are well and hugging you from afar Kozo. πŸ™‚
    Thank you for all the work you do here

    • Kozo says:

      I can’t agree more, Anyes. When I visit your blog, even for a quick glance, I feel love. I feel the love you have for nature, your family, your photography, and your readers. That love is real. It makes my day/life better. Someone will verify this in a lab someday, but I don’t need any scientific evidence. I feel it. That is what matters.
      Love and {{{Hugs}}} mon amie.

  7. I love this post- it encompasses everything that my heart feels. One of the tenants that came out of my relationship with my exhusband, is that meditation could be enough the majority of the time. The ego argues with this, but that is just its nature. I feel every seed we plant through our loving kindness blogging meditations will eventually change our usual allowance of the ego to decide things for us and react- and we all will simply recognize this through our heart. Thanks Kozo!

    • Kozo says:

      I love the idea of planting lovingkindness seeds, Jessica. Yes, I have been struggling with ego for lifetimes. I agree that through metta meditation we can change from ego reaction to heart embrace. Thank you for your wisdom and love. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

  8. I totally agree with you, Kozo! πŸ™‚ As always I discover we have some telepathic connection while reading this now.. because i’m writing a post on a very similar idea – a regular meditation of wishing love and kindness to others, and what magical and fast spreading effects it has on other people and the environment we live in!
    To me it became like a habit, every morning when i wake up, i like to come to the window, breathe some fresh air, look at the view and say in my thoughts “May all be well, protected and loved today”.
    I think this thought and let it fly with the wind, and it really feels so nice! All this thing is not imaginary, it’s real!
    When we think of others with love, we do send them a feeling of peace, even good luck and protection!

    • Kozo says:

      The wind outside your window must be blowing towards California, Sofia, because I feel your love. I think people in the future will finally realize that love has no boundaries of time, space, or intensity. We can love the whole world in one sitting and that love is real. Thank you for spreading the love, Sofia. Thank you for your lovingkindness. Love, Kozo

      • Ah people might think us crazy or dreamers or too lovable, but that’s just the way we are, and we have enough love to embrace the whole world and every person in it!
        Many lovingkind thoughts to you dear Kozo
        ❀

    • 1EarthUnited says:

      Hi my dearest Sofia and Kozo, As Sofia pointed out, “All this thing is not imaginary, it’s real!” May I interject to say that imagination is the magic that makes life “real”, it’s also the attraction force that governs synchronicity. It’s no accident that we’re all BBFs AND we keep spreading the love and peace, what a blessed outpouring! πŸ˜€

      • Kozo says:

        I completely agree, Maddy. Something is going on here that I can’t put my finger on (because we are miles apart), but it is definitely real and amazing. Someone was ranting about Twitter the other day, and I had to comment that Twitter has enriched my life because it has brought me closer to my BBFs. I feel so blessed to have you guys as my friends. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

  9. sarahneeve says:

    Totally agree with your love-inspiring post. I don’t meditate, but when I see back things blazoned across the TV screen, I always wish for better things to happen. πŸ™‚ Sending extra large hugs and loving thoughts your way.

    • Kozo says:

      I can feel the love and hugs, Sarah. Just by wishing for better things to happen, you are sending out metta love. Thank you for your kindness and love. {{{Hugs]}} Kozo

  10. electronicbaglady says:

    Really interesting and inspiring post! I find blogging is a form of meditation, or perhaps for me in a tediously Quakerly sense, ministry. I want to express the love I experience around me, and sometimes I feel more like a conduit of it than the originator. In real life I am often les positive or even reflective, but blogging helps to reinforce those patterns again. Not sure I’m making sense, but perhaps love is also a form of insanity…anyway, [[[[hugs]]]] to all!

    • Kozo says:

      You are making complete sense, EBL. Blogging is a form of spiritual practice and, yes, ministry. We are blogging for peace, love, and joy in a world that needs these things. I, too, am less reflective and more obtuse in the real world. Blogging reminds me of the lessons I thought I already knew. In addition, reading other bloggers’ posts help me see things from a different perspective. I love that you enlighten me about the Quaker way in your posts. Thank you. Love, Kozo

  11. Silverback says:

    Thank you for another inspirational post Kozo. As you know, I came to the ‘blogging’ community via Tracy’s blog. Love is a strange emotion and (as far as I am concerned) it is possible to feel love for someone you have never met. Having read many articles, and comments, by people who I have never met, and who I may never meet, I can definately feel the love that passes between individuals who are often separated by thousands of miles. I can truly say that I too feel love for some of these people and I am moved to tears when I read some of their stories. Love for one’s fellow man brings about better understanding and, hopefully, a better world for our children and grandchildren to inherit. Love and {{{hugs}}} to you and yours. Chris.

    • Kozo says:

      Thanks, Chris. I can feel the love you send. I would add that love for others also makes our lives more enjoyable. Our hearts are filled every time we let ourselves love. This is why I love Fredrickson’s new definition of love. We can fall in love over and over every day. I am so excited every morning to live this way.
      Love and {{{Hugs}}} Kozo.

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  14. Sunshine says:

    huh? what did you say, Kozo??
    πŸ™‚
    just having some fun with you…and YES, i heard YOU!! guess what? my 10 min. mindful sitting has jumped to 15 min every single day. so far so good.
    …and, i totally agree with the D.Lama…if we train up the youngsters in the proper way to go…our world would look quite different today. the power lies within the culture of our children…but who thinks about that?
    Scene 5, take 3: “oh, little child, you want to play more x-box violent games…sure, here is the controller. stop bothering me.” cut…that’s a wrap.
    ❀ {{hugs}}

  15. The Hook says:

    I enjoyed this post more than a Beatles song!

    • Kozo says:

      That is a huge compliment, Hook. Like I’ve said before, I’d be lucky to be bum fluff on John Lennon’s underwear. Thank you for that huge compliment. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo
      P.S.
      I left a huge tip for you at the front desk.

  16. Dieu says:

    I agree with everything here, Kozo. We tend to hold romantic love at a higher level than other types of love, when really all love is beautiful.

    • Kozo says:

      Yes, Dieu. I feel a love for so many things including your poetry. Fredrickson just confirmed that these feelings are real. Isn’t it an amazing world where we can love and love and love even if there is no one around? {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

  17. 1EarthUnited says:

    OSHO said it best about love… Love is such a load word, full of attachments and conditions, preconceived notions, ideas of romance and silver screens. We want to reveal the wizard behind the projector screen of our minds. A better description is “lovingness” or the Buddhist notion of “loving-kindness”. The Greeks call it “agape” love, impersonal brotherly love. I just call it, “heartfelt caring of one another.” Bowing respectfully to honor the other, knowing that you are a reflection of the inner me, and we are really one LOVE! πŸ˜€
    Kozo I hear your challenge for silent meditation everyday and I’ll gladly accept it! In my everyday waking meditation, I constantly watching my mind, speech and actions. As my awareness increases, I feel blessed with enthusiasm for life, with boundless energy and opportunities. I keep asking myself, what can I do to help others, how else can I be of service. Boy, how lucky are we Huh? Meditation is the process of mediating oneself, to keep to the One Mind (answering to a higher power), as Sofia aptly puts it: be empathetic, tune into others and you’ll know who you really are. Awesome practice mediation is:
    I will be quoting Kozo from now on, hehe… “In conclusion, blogging/lovingkindness meditation increase our capacity to love. More love equals more peace. Therefore, blogging leads to peace.” How can anyone argue with logic like that? Peace be with you my friends, BLOG ON BROTHERS AND SISTERS!

    • Kozo says:

      Blog on, Peace Out, and Onelove you forever, Maddy. You are one incredible woman. I don’t know how many hours are in your day, but you seem to get 10x more done than us mere mortals. Thank you for all you do for me, peace, love, and understanding. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

      • 1EarthUnited says:

        LOL, thx for the compliments u’r so sweet Kozo! Same 24 hrs as everyone else. I choose to read blogs in between breaks, keeps my stress levels down and puts me in a positive mood. Finishing up with a photo shoot today, have runway rehearsals tonight… I’ll update my online scrapbook and send you guys the link via Twitter. Have a glorious love- filled day everyone. *Peace, Love }}* Hoo-rah! says the eco-warrior 4 peace. πŸ˜€

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